We were Broke, and I was Broken
By C. Worley
If only there was a place to go for support back then, perhaps my choices would have led to quicker healing and recovery as a family.
I could not see beyond our troubles. The only light at the end of the tunnel was the train, and it was coming at me at full speed.
My husband was a gambler and had lost all of our savings, prior to losing his job for being intoxicated at work. I knew nothing of this until one day the electricity was shut off. When I called the electrical company, I learned that our bill hadn’t been paid for three months.
I was blind-sided, and believed that everything was fine. The biggest problem was, I had never looked at a bill in our home, my husband took care of everything. I didn’t know what we had for investments, what was owing on the house, I was financially ignorant.
When I confronted my husband, he broke down and told me that he hadn’t worked in three months and had been going to the casino every day in hopes of winning back what he had lost - all of our money.
When my friends and family learned of our situation, they urged me to leave him. I felt so ashamed, lost and broken. I didn’t know how to handle money and I blamed him for everything. Months of anguish, fighting and finger pointing eventually led us to a recovery program for my husband’s gambling addition, but we lost our home in the process. We were on the brink of divorce when we were introduced to a life coach, who in turn, introduced us to a financial planner.
The greatest lesson I learned from our troubled year is, we can’t go it alone. Planning and life management requires skills, and tools we did not have and only by working with professionals, we were able to save our marriage, get in front of our financial problems, and begin the road to recovery as a family and a couple. We were able to save our marriage and begin to build a new life.
On February 4th the Divorce Symposium will have professionals from all disciplines to talk with, answer questions and provide advice on legal, financial, life planning, health and wellness.
Join us for a day of learning. From 8:30 to 4:00, at the Edmonton Expo Centre. $55.00 includes parking and lunch.